Asking For It: 6%
It is estimated that only 6% of rapes and sexual assaults are actually reported, which is a frightfully low number. I have started a new project aiming to explore the reasons behind this, which started from the #ididnotreport hashtag on twitter - where survivors or rape/sexual abuse tell of their numerous reasons why they didn’t report it to anyone. This is the first series of images - numerous things that victims are told time and time again whenever they do actually report their abuse to someone - be it a friend, parent, family member, stranger or the authorities. We live in a society of rape culture where the victim is almost constantly blamed - told that they drank too much, wore too little, were out too late by themselves, flirted too much, are too “slutty”, are too “frigid”, are making a big deal out of “nothing”, the rapist was their partner so it obviously wasn’t rape because you can’t be raped by someone you’re in a relationship with. The things that victims constantly get told by the media, the people they know, rape “jokes”, songs, the authorities…they are painted on them so that they can never forget. To remind them that it is all “their fault” - if they hadn’t gone there/drank alcohol/wore that skirt/flirted etc, it wouldn’t have happened. Obviously.
I intend to expand on this series of photographs in the near future, and there is a lot more to come from this project, this is only the very starting point. My aim is to bring the idea of rape culture, slut-shaming, and victim-blaming to the attention of more people. To try and examine why 94% of rapes/assaults/abuse are never reported to the police, and to try and make that number decrease.
this is an amazing project because it is impossible to ignore. you are looking at the thing you see the most and confront first on a person: their face. more than their face though, their mind and their emotions.
Monday Sep 9 @ 04:29pmTW: Rape
[Image description: An image of Jesus with text on the side reading “A Unplanned Sexual Event is all part of His Plan for you.
I. At immediate conception name your new baby
II. Believe that…
Wednesday Sep 9 @ 11:37amThis guy was awesome, he even wore a mini-skirt. Rape prevention tip: use the buddy system! If you’re not able to stop yourself from sexually assaulting people, ask a friend to stay with you while you’re in public!
And if you put as your Facebook status “I totally raped at Halo today” for your two hundred Facebook friends to see, statistically, you have just reminded thirty-three people of one of the worst experiences of their entire lives.
To describe how well you did at a video game.
Good job!
An Addendum, On Rape Jokes | No, Seriously, What About Teh Menz? (via lookoutsideyourself) Wednesday Aug 8 @ 04:04pm
Sunday Jun 6 @ 10:36pmsquee-gee:brandos:gareth-bales-peen:palopoli:
This photo was taken the night I was raped.
March 20, 2010.
The boy who has the red ‘X’ over his face was my attacker. The rest are my friends.
The photo was taken at a cast party. He was supposed to have given me a ride home.
I’m finally letting the world know. I’m sure many people at my school already knew because of rumours due to the police officers that hovered around me. But now, over a year later, I’m ready to officially admit it to everyone: I was raped.
I’ve almost posted this many times before, but I lose courage. I’m going to post it this time. I want to spread courage to other people. No matter what the circumstances were, it is in no way your fault. If you were sexually assaulted, you are not in the wrong. If you didn’t want it to happen, it shouldn’t have happened.
I know how you feel. Dehumanized, degraded, unimportant, ashamed. I WAS ashamed. Because of what he did to me I felt ashamed. Why did it feel so embarrassing? You should not be ashamed. It is an act of violence. Someone attacked you. Fuck them. They should not be allowed to get away with it. He was not allowed to get away with it.
Yes, you will cry. Yes, you will feel awful. And yes, it gets better. Tell someone. A parent, a friend, a teacher, anyone. It helps, I swear on my life it helps.
You’re not alone. You’re never alone. You are important. You are strong.
I’m happy. You deserve to be happy, too.
-Annabella
it’s really sad and all that you got raped, but i’m assuming that you’re the girl whose face isn’t blurred and is hanging all over your presumed attacker, touching his chest, and letting him invade your personal space.
maybe you should also think about the messages that you send instead of blaming it all on the “attacker”.
gareth bale whatever your name is, you are an idiot.
I don’t care if this young woman was standing next to her attacked butt ass naked in a pair of clear heels, he still does not have the right to violate her because he couldn’t control his fucking dick.
Kudos to the woman that made this post. You are very brave. Much braver than I am.
Funny… The other women are letting the men “invade their personal space” as well, and I bet those men didn’t take that as an invitation to rape them.
Impressed and inspired by Annabella’s courage.
Gareth Bale whatsyourface, YOU can go fuck yourself with that victim-blaming bullshit. Annabella, good on you for being so brave!
Annabella, you’re truly an inspiration.
>:[ if a guy goes to a strip club and gets a lap dance, does that make it okay for him to rape her? HELL. NO.
Fuck you and your victim blaming, douchenozzle.
Not Ever - Rape Crisis Scotland has launched Scotlands first ever TV campaign aimed at tackling women-blaming attitudes to rape.
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Wish this was showed everywhere in the world. I was just talking to my friend yesterday about how much I can’t stand “She was asking for it.” I can’t really think of anything that is a dumber statement. It doesn’t matter what she was wearing, how much she was drinking, how late she was out, how flirty she was being, if she was into it at first or not, it’s never anybody else’s fault besides the rapist’s, period. You CAN’T ask for rape, that’s how rape is defined, it’s against your will, you don’t ask for something to happen against your will, this should be common sense. If she was asking for it, she’d ask for it, and it’d be called SEX.
It’s very simple, every human being (remember women are human beings too) should be able to go about their lives without being victimized, or being blamed for being victimized. Rape is an unconscionable act, and I know that some people will say “I’m not justifying rape, I’m just sayin a woman should blah blah blah.” the fact is when you blame the victim, you are justifying the crime, you validate rape, and you help create a culture where it’s okay for someone to do whatever they want to a woman because a man isn’t held accountable for their actions. You help create a culture where it’s okay sometimes to rape under certain circumstances. Besides, it’s just massively inhuman to feel anything but sympathy for someone that has had that happen to them, and anger towards the aggressor. It’s never okay. You have to understand this.
If you agree, don’t fall into the logic that “you can’t change people’s minds”, because ideas in fact are contagious. Say something, not just on tumblr. If you hear a friend victim blaming you don’t have to be all confrontational about it, just be like “Well I don’t about that, it’s never the victim’s fault.” You’ll be surprised how easy it is to change someone’s mind when you’re calm and rational and you’re not arguing, yelling, insulting, or shaming them.
Yup.
Wednesday Apr 4 @ 12:39pm
The FBI’s definition of rape – “the carnal knowledge of a female, forcibly and against her will” — was written more than 80 years ago and is the basis for their Uniform Crime Report statistics on rape. That definition excludes victims of forced anal or oral sex, rape with an object, statutory rape and male rape.1
Many police departments interpret the definition to exclude victims like Jenny who were under the influence of drugs or alcohol, because of the word “forcibly.”2 Having such a limited and archaic definition affects the law enforcement attitudes about what is “real rape”
With such an incomplete description, the FBI has undercounted rapes by hundreds of thousands of cases, resulting in an inaccurate understanding of the scope of the problem.3
Misclassifying sexual assaults creates “a perception that this is not a real problem and so resources would not be allocated to training and investigation”4
I think I’m going to wear it for the one in Birmingham (UK) too!June 11th from 12-3 I hope I see other people there!♥
i am so excited for this
I’m wearing lolita to the Boston Slut Walk too! :)
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Why is there no Slut Walk NYC? Thinking of going to the Boston one since that’s the closest it would seem…
Wednesday Apr 4 @ 06:56pm
Monday Nov 11 @ 04:40pmFinally, an anti-rape campaign that targets the perpetrators, rather than the victims!
(via Socialist WebZine: Canadian anti-rape campaign)GOOD.
Why do strange men think they’re allowed to touch me? (via halifaxeten)
People touch my hair a lot. It makes me very uncomfortable.
(via dr-grumbles)
Friday Oct 10 @ 12:13amMonday Sep 9 @ 09:11pm
- Just because I have casual sex doesn’t mean I don’t get a choice in that sex.
- Just because I have many partners (all consensual and aware of each other, but even if they weren’t aware, rape is still wrong) doesn’t mean anyone gets to fuck me…
I’m sure you’ve already seen this, as it’s been floating around the internet for a few days now at the very least, but The Riot would just like to lend our voice to the praise for this campaign.
Thank you, world, for finally doing something that isn’t telling women to try not to get raped, but is in fact telling men not to rape.
Wonderful organization :)
This is amazing. I hadn’t seen it before, and I’m filled with so much hope that it exists. I am, however, not happy that all of the pressure is put onto men; it’s possible and common for women to sexually abuse men as well. This is, however, an absolutely amazing first step. I’m excited to see what else this company puts out.
Wednesday Sep 9 @ 12:50am